3Keys practitioner Jill Morgan reflects on the scars that both animals and humans can bear, and how we have the choice of whether or not to heal ours.
I recently moved to Minneapolis, MN from Tucson, AZ. While there were many reasons for this relocation, a major factor was simply that my soul no longer resonated with the hot, desert climate, yearning instead for grass, big trees, water, and four seasons. That’s why I take exceptional pleasure in my morning walks.
One of my favorite trails winds adjacent to Minnehaha Creek. Along this trail I can enjoy the sounds of rushing water, many beautiful trees that provide abundant shade during these hot summer months, and lots of birds, including ducks. I love ducks. Without fail, when a duck quacks, I smile. There is something about ducks that induces automatic joy for me. If no one is around to hear me, I talk to them. (I’m a little afraid of being labeled the Crazy Duck Lady.)
On yesterday’s walk at the creek, I encountered a duck very close to the side of the trail. With no one around to overhear me, I began talking to her. “Hi sweetie. You’re a pretty girl,” I said softly. Suddenly, I noticed that there was a big chunk missing from the end of her upper bill. I could see her tongue underneath. I realized that having this disability must make life more difficult for her. It would be hard to eat, groom, and do other duckly things. I also noticed that she was alone. Had she been shunned by the other ducks for her disability? That was a decidedly human thing to think, but immediately tears came to my eyes as I imagined how it might feel to be that duck.
And then I realized, I AM that duck. In fact, we are ALL that duck. Not all of us wear a disability on the outside as a physical scar like this duck does. However, we all have a disability on the inside: deeply ingrained brain wiring in the subconscious (right brain) that is installed in the earliest years of our lives and causes us, even in adulthood, to respond to situations and people in our lives in ways that are habitually counter-productive and not rational. For those of us who don’t have the tools for rewiring, these “programs” (as the subconscious knee-jerk responses are referred to in the 3Keys process) make life hard for us, just like the duck’s deformed bill does. We may struggle with relationships; addiction to alcohol, sex, sweets, shopping, television, and/or other substances or activities; overworking; depression; chronic anxiety; and many more damaging patterns. Life may feel painful most of the time. We may find that everything we’re engaged in feels unmanageable and like it’s falling apart.
Thankfully, unlike for the duck, there is remedy for our disability. The 3Keys process gives clients tools and facilitates techniques to address the underlying issues that caused these programs to get wired in the first place. With practice and over time, rewiring occurs: new brain pathways are established, and those earlier ones begin to wither from less frequent use. This rewiring process allows for new, rational ways to respond to whatever we’re facing. Those who stick with the process increasingly grow to be in touch with their strong, wise adult self who can guide them through life from a grounded, calm, balanced and resourceful place. The pain gradually recedes as we make healthier, more rational choices that optimally support us in all our affairs.
Unfortunately, the duck must live with her disability. We humans have a choice. Maybe after reading this article, some of you will choose to embark on the 3Keys process and find out how much better life can be when disabling subconscious programs are no longer in charge.
Find out more about Jill and her healing work at http://www.riverwindhealing.com